Lisa Firestone, Ph.D., instructor
research on the predictors of the longevity of a relationship focuses on four
key behaviors which lead to relationship failure. The four behaviors are: being
critical, contemptuous, dismissive, and using stone walling in the
relationship. Often these styles of relating stem from the influence of early
childhood experiences and the attachment patterns, or defensive adaptations
each partner in the relationship developed to cope with his or her early
interpersonal environment. The ways each partner learned to cope, that were adaptive
to their early environment but that are no longer appropriate, influence their
relationships from partner selection to provoking their partner to treat them
in a manner similar to how they were treated by their early caretakers.
financial strains and practical worries can take their toll on a relationship,
the internal defenses individuals bring to the table are often at the root of
the deepest conflict or distress between couples, regardless of external
forces. What prevents most people from being able to sustain romantic,
meaningful relationships that satisfy their needs and desires? Why do people
often feel compelled to punish those closest to them? What are the factors that
determine whether partners will end up experiencing love and fulfillment in
their relationship or suffering pain and distress? This workshop helps answer
these questions by providing participants with a theoretical model that
integrates psychodynamic, existential, and family systems frameworks in a
manner that can increase clinicians’ understanding of and ability to assist
individuals in developing and maintaining intimacy in their relationships.
Participants will learn how to help couples challenge hostile and
self-protective behaviors that interfere with closeness and intimacy.
Upon completion, participants will be able to:
how methods or defenses formed to deal with pain and anxiety in childhood later
come to limit people as adults in their ability to develop and sustain
how the concept of the fantasy bond, an imaginary connection formed with their
partner, that relieves anxiety yet interferes with real relationships.
the techniques of Voice Therapy to help partners identify and challenge
negative thoughts toward themselves and their partner.
attachment theory to understanding the dynamics operating in couples in order
to provide more effective treatment.
couple dynamics through the use of objective instruments and use this
information to inform treatment planning.
journaling and communication exercises to facilitate change in high conflict
Program Code: TW68
6 CE Credits
Location: at MSPP, Newton
Lisa Firestone, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and Director
of Research and Education at The Glendon Association. She is involved in
clinical training and research on suicide and violence, resulting in the
development of the Firestone Assessment of Self-destructive Thoughts
(FAST), the (FASI) and the Firestone Assessment of Violent Thoughts
(FAVT), published by PAR Publications. She is co-author of The Self under
Siege, Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice, Creating a Life of
Meaning and Compassion and Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships. Dr.
Firestone is a highly regarded workshop facilitator in the topics of suicide,
violence and family relations.
Event Type:Continuing Education Program
Category:Innovators - Clinical Practice